Ultimately, you will likely continue to develop independence and a sense of freedom based on your age and other factors. People grow older and move further away from their immediate family to continue to develop their identity on their own. You will slowly start to look for other kinds of support outside of the family that will be there for you.
Now, there is the possibility that you are still living with family, or you are minor. Again, I might be making many assumptions with information provided. You will likely need to identify types of support outside the home in which you feel welcomed, and people are accepting of your identity.
It is not that you will be better off without family. Family members usually go through a process of grieving when their loved one starts to identify different to their assigned sex at birth. Most of patients’ family members describe having pictured their child growing up a certain way and recall moments when their child was first born. Ultimately, most of them have a strong emotional connection to having a child and that child being a certain sex. Thus, family members have to go through their emotional process and there may still be opportunity for them to become accepting on the new identity later on. There is never a guarantee that this will always happen. Also, religion will likely influence their perspective most of the time. Religion is cultural value that guides people’s behavior, and it is likely your family has been religious for a long time. Therefore, these values will be hard to change. But again, I have seen family members develop a new perspective even while still holding religious values.
Ultimately, it is your decision how much you want to distance yourself from family. I am not sure what the toxic environment all entails. However, I do believe that you can continue to look for other forms of support and acceptance besides family.
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