It is not surprising that you will struggle with periods of psychological, physiological, and emotional impairment. The difficult part of divorce is that you are also being asked to make major decisions while experiencing these symptoms. I am unsure if there has been discussion around parenting, finances, sell or relocate your home, and navigate the grief and loss of dreams. You will notice that many things are coming undone quickly. Thus, I encourage you to focus on processing your emotions. It will be best to find social support or therapy to help you in this process. It may not be best to try to look for a way to convince your husband to stay or communicate feelings with him because he is unreliable at the moment. Although you may not want the marriage to end, you are likely better off on processing your own emotions rather than looking for a way to salvage the relationship with him. Consider that if he is already deciding that he wants a divorce and has taken steps to move out that he is not showing you an opporunity to still work on things. Moreover, he is saying he only wants to be with his friends and you are also having a difficult time trusting him. I assume their is some mistrust based on you refering to him as a liar.
One thing I like to do in therapy with individuals going through divorce is having them develop their story of how the marriage came to fracture. Your story will begin to develop and as it does, you begin to understand the role you played in it. By gaining a better understanding you will see yourself as neither victim nor villain. Similarly, you will begin to see him from a similar compassionate lens. It is unlikely that he married you only to just divorce you.
It is important to note that you may get stuck in different through processes. You continue to ask what you could have done to make things work or what you should do to make things work. Ultimately, these thought processes usually lead to more anxiety and sadness. In therapy, you can attempt to learn more about yourself in relationships and identify aspects you want to imrpove. However, do this for yourself and not necessarily with the idea that it will result in salvaging the marriage.
You are going through a very difficult situation and I may not have all the details but I hope this provides you with some idea of your next steps to take.
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